Couples Counseling

Couples Counseling in Tokyo, Japan

Couples Counseling

Do you feel like your relationship or marriage has hit a breaking point? Has romance been replaced by arguments? Every couple has problems, misunderstandings and hard times. This is a reality of human relations. Often, these problems can be greater, even endangering the relationship, when the couple is from different cultures or when living abroad and far from home.

Handling a relationship requires commitment and effort on the part of both the partners, both of which are encompassed by couples counseling. With an effort on behalf of both partners to enter counseling together, issues that are driving the couple apart can be jointly coped with along with the help of a professional. Endless arguments, disinterest, anger and resentment can all be effectively dealt with by sitting together with a certified Couple and Marriage Counselor.

Couple Counseling is based on providing support to improve communication between the two parties, while teaching strategies to change repetitive patterns of thoughts and behaviour. It is a space where the couple can talk (not fight), with the assurance that both will be heard and together, reach a solution. The therapist helps the couple to tackle immediate problems and prevent further damage to the relationship, while simultaneously working to strengthen the partners’ bond for the future. Although the therapist will be a mediator, without the support of both, it is usually difficult to reach a satisfactory resolution. In these cases, individual therapy or counseling is also an option, providing strategies to deal with the problems and start working with the couple from home.

Methods for Couples and Marriage Counseling

Methods for Couples and Marriage Counseling

There exists a wide variety of strategies and methods in Couple and Marriage Counseling. Some of the most common are:

  • Narrative Therapy Helps with the externalization of problems and communication issues through the techniques developed by Michael White. In this approach, “people are not the problem, the problem is the problem”.
  • Internal Family System Internal Family System – This approach works under the assumption that the person cannot be understood outside the Family unit. Because of this, during therapy, the couple will get to know each other better and find the origin of their problems by understanding each other’s ‘parts’.
  • Positive Psychology This is based in the importance of the here and now, and how to appreciate the good and happy experiences in the present, instead of just looking at past experiences.
  • Gottman Method This combines individual and couples sessions. It is focused on strengthening the relationship in three areas: friendship, conflict management, and creation of shared meaning.
  • Imago Therapy Helping couples uncover and keep the love they began with.


Cultural Differences in Cross-Cultural Couples

In a relationships where both members come from the same country, communication problems are common. The meanings of words and their use are not always the same for everyone, even within the same community. Likewise, the new couple must get used to differences in ideas, customs, and lifestyles when they begin to live together.

This process is difficult for couples from the same culture, but it is a very different challenge for couples who come from different cultures and countries.

At Tokyo Mental Health, we provide special attention to cross-cultural couples, where a trained therapist will support the couple in the development of better communication strategies, respect, and tolerance techniques. In a cross-cultural relationship, it is especially important to take into account what the couple has in common, while respecting the differences.

Counseling and Psychotherapy at Tokyo Mental Health offices in Shintomi

Tokyo Mental Health Therapy Office


6F Urbane Mitsui Building, Shintomi 2-4-6, Chuo-ku, Tokyo

Easy access from Asakusa line, Ginza line, Yurakucho line, Hibiya line, and JR Yamanote line:

  • Shintomicho station – exit 3, 1-minute walk
  • Takaracho station – exit A1, 9-minute walk
  • Kyobashi station exit 1, 10-minute walk
  • Ginza 1-chome station, exit 10, 10-minute walk
  • Higashi Ginza station exit A7 or exit 3, 11-minute walk
  • JR Yurakucho station, 15-minute walk

Office Hours

  • Monday: 9:00 AM to 9:30 PM
  • Tuesday: 9:00 AM to 9:30 PM
  • Wednesday: 9:00 AM to 9:30 PM
  • Thursday: 9:00 AM to 6:30 PM
  • Friday: 9:00 AM to 6:30 PM
  • Saturday: 9:00 AM to 6:30 PM
  • Sunday: 9:00 AM to 6:30 PM