Do you feel like your relationship or marriage has hit a breaking point? Has romance been replaced by arguments? Every couple has problems, misunderstandings and hard times. This is a reality of human relations. Often, these problems can be greater, even endangering the relationship, when the couple is from different cultures, or when living abroad, far from home and familiarity.Handling a relationship requires commitment and effort on the part of both the partners, both of which are encompassed by couples counseling. With an effort on behalf of both partners to enter counseling together, issues that are driving the couple apart can be jointly coped with along with the help of a professional. Endless arguments, disinterest, anger and resentment can all be effectively dealt with by sitting together with a certified Couples and Marriage Counselor.Couples Counseling is based on providing support to improve communication between the two parties, while teaching strategies to change repetitive patterns of thoughts and behavior. It is a space where the couple can talk (not fight), with the assurance that both will be heard and will reach a solution together. The therapist helps the couple to tackle immediate problems and prevent further damage to the relationship, while simultaneously working to strengthen the partners’ bond for the future. Although the therapist will be a mediator, without the support of both, it is usually difficult to reach a satisfactory resolution. In these cases, individual therapy or counseling is also an option, providing strategies to deal with the problems and start working with the couple from home.
There exists a wide variety of strategies and methods in Couple and Marriage Counseling. Some of the most common are:
In a relationships where both members come from the same country, communication problems are common. The meanings of words and their use are not always the same for everyone, even within the same community. Likewise, the new couple must get used to differences in ideas, customs, and lifestyles when they begin to live together.This process is difficult for couples from the same culture, but it is a very different challenge for couples who come from different cultures and countries.At Tokyo Mental Health, we provide special attention to cross-cultural couples, where a trained therapist will support the couple in the development of better communication strategies, respect, and tolerance techniques. In a cross-cultural relationship, it is especially important to take into account what the couple has in common, while respecting the differences.